to you, from me

Birthdays are not a big deal to you.

You shake your head and smile as I fret and wring my hands over getting you the perfect thing.

“It’s fine, Babe. I just want to be home with YOU.”

I worry over money and struggle to truly separate your birthday from that other holiday that we all celebrate 15 days after your birthday.

I know how you feel about the “birthday SLASH christmas” gift.

I won’t ever give you one of those.

I know despite my efforts your birthday gets swept up by Christmas.  Especially now that we have kids.

It’s hard with money this year since both of us took cuts to our allowances.  It’s hard for me to do what I want.

My goal has always been to get a reaction out of you on your birthday.

You give the same reaction if you love something or if you are lukewarm on something or if you’re not a huge fan of something.

I want a reaction.

I don’t think I’ll get it this year.

But I want you to know that every single year…no  matter how much money I have to spend…I want to give you all of the things.

The shed for all your things.

The fence to keep out the stupid neighbor’s trash and kids.

A new snow blower.

A new truck.

And all those things on your wish list that could either be a tool or a tech geek thing.

I want you to have it all.

I want you to have the king-size bed and master bathroom that you have dreamed about having.

I want you to have a hot tub to soak in.

I want to give you your own home office…where you can close the door and play your music and do your thang.

I want to give you your dream job.  One where you can get your geek on and get paid for it.

Mostly I want to give you a rest from worrying about our budget and our house and our bills and all the things you take on for our family.

I know we don’t keep score, but if we did? I would want to give you something that would make you understand the impact of all you’ve given me.

You have made me laugh when I didn’t want to.

You made me beautiful when I felt wretched.

You swept me off my feet when I least expected it.

You brought music and dance and song to my life.

You bring me the kind of laughter that makes my stomach hurt and my eyes water.

You gave me the two most beautiful sons in the world.

You give me a hand to hold when I most need it.

You give the best hugs…and kisses.

You are not romantic, but you are sweet.  You are kind. You are helpful, and you are supportive.

You are my best friend.

Happy birthday.


I hope I can always make you smile like this.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. so very sweet. 🙂

  2. TheNextMartha says

    Just lovely. And happy birthday to him.

  3. Aww. Happy Birthday Cort.

  4. Thank you Sweetie.

    Your efforts and kindness are more than I deserve sometimes.

    Love you most-est.

  5. Awww… what a beautiful tribute – a gift all its own. Gave me goosebumps.

  6. Kate, this is such a beautifully written “birthday card.” Happy Birthday Cort!

  7. Okay I love this post – Love It.
    But my favorite detail is that bright flower in the picture.

    It’s like that’s what you two are for each other:
    The color in a black and white world.

    And that’s the best gift anyone can give or receive.

    I hope Cort has a lovely birthday.

  8. Wow, that was so well said!
    And I love the photo.
    I hope your Husband has a very Happy Birthday!

  9. Happy Birthday to your hubs! Reading about your love makes me smile 🙂

  10. I love your writing! That was THE sweetest thing I’ve read all week….maybe all month. Happy Birthday to your sweetie. Thanks for letting us peek 😉
    ♡ Jill

  11. Awe! So sweet . So happy you have each other. Happy day to cortney!

  12. Soooo incredibly sweet! Happy Birthday Courtney! He shares a birthday with my daughter – she just turned 2 yesterday. 🙂 I bet he had a wonderful birthday. You guys are so good together.

  13. What a heartfelt greeting. Hope your man had a very happy day and with you by his side, how could he not?