when the momma needs her mommy

So life happened again.

And by life I mean a kidney stone.

This time the pain started around noon on Monday.  I took enough Tylenol to choke a horse get me through my afternoon classes, but then I went right home.  I went to bed and didn’t come out until after 7pm.  That was when Cort told me to get in the car and go to the ER. 7 hours of pain was enough evidence for him that this time? It was worse. (I had this pain twice before…once I went to the ER but felt better while I was there.  The second time I stayed up all night until it went away).

So I sucked up my anxiety of going somewhere scary (to me) by myself, and drove to the ER.

They got me right in, although they were very busy.

While waiting, I was texting with Cort and he urged me to call my mom. I told him that I would maybe do that.

Then I listening to what was going on outside my room: a boy had a broken hip and his family was around him.  A very VERY old lady was dying and her very VERY old husband was on the phone with their minister.  There were family members there taking turns being with him and his wife.

I felt very lonely.

So I called my mommy.

After hearing that I was all alone and had just thrown up in a trashcan with no one around, my mom put her pants on (she was in her jammies already), grabbed her book, and headed to keep me company.

Just after she arrived, she told the nurses that I had been sick and needed a bucket.  She then fussed around me making sure I was comfy.

I’m not going to lie, having my mommy show up when I was sick and scared was the best thing ever.  I mean, best thing besides NOT being sick, of course.

Before having kids, I used to call my mom whenever I was sick.  It was just my reaction.

It’s not that Cort isn’t good at taking care of me, she was just the only person who had ever made me feel better.

Since having pregnancies, Cort has always been the one to take care of me, and my mom would be back up to take care of the kids if I was down and out.

But Monday night it was just me and my mom.

After my CAT scan, my mom and I spent over an hour alone together waiting for the results and we talked about everything from what my dad was doing to untold stories of her past…things I had never asked about like my grandparents divorce.

Even though I was in a ton of pain, and my mom would have normally been home in bed, it was really quite great to spend that time with her.

When I threw up, she would take my bucket and carefully wash it out and dry it and give it back.

She would make me lie back and put a cold, wet washcloth on my forehead.

She would ask “how much longer?” to the nurses about the results of the scan and when my pain meds would be coming.

She giggled at me as the pain meds were administered via IV and I got all goofy.

And after four hours in the ER, she drove me home with my bra and prescriptions in her purse.

Turns out I have a 4mm kidney stone and a pretty swollen right kidney.

I spent all of yesterday {Tuesday} in and out of consciousness while I took pain meds, drank water, and puked.  It was…not glamorous.

My mom came over for an hour after the boys got home but before Cort did and played with Eddie so I could stay in bed.

Today I have at least showered, moved around a bit, eaten some jelly toast, and not puked.  Yay!

I am still dizzy from lack of real food and tired from my body battling this thing, but I plan to go back to work on Friday.  And I told Cort to go ahead and go to class tonight, that I thought I could take care of the boys for a few hours by myself.

We will see.

But I know that if things get really bad, I can call my mom and she will hop on over.

Leave it to painful kidney stones to remind me how lucky I am.

Also? Thank you, mommy. I love you.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. Mommies are the best! Mine was going to hop in the car and drive 2 hours to take care of me because I have a sinus/ear infection.

    I’m glad yours is there to help you. I hope your kidney stone pain passes quickly, it sounds awful! 🙁

  2. There is just no comfort like a mom can give. Husbands are great and sweet and all that but it’s just not the same. So glad your mom is there to take care of you when you need it. Feel better. *hugs*

  3. I would give anything to be able to call my mommy.. I lost her New years eve last year. It just isn’t the same once they are gone. I miss her so badly and things like this remind me . I am glad you are doing better I wouldn’t wish anyone kidney stone pain or gall bladder issues both suck royally.

  4. Thank goodness for mommys. Sometimes they are just what the Dr. Ordered. Feel better. My daughter’s teacher just had to have two kidney stones removed. Not fun.

  5. oh my god kate. i had a kidney stone when i was pregnant with louise, it was HORRIBLE. because i was pregnant, they couldn’t do an x-ray to confirm that it was even there, and because i was SEVEN months pregnant, there was too much pressure on my ureter to allow the hypothetical stone to pass. i lay in a hospital bed of the maternity ward for five days on a dilaudid drip. eventually i had surgery to place a stent ensuring that urine could pass so my kidney wouldn’t rupture and kill me. the stent did not relieve the pain and discomfort, in fact, it made it worse because i could feel it at all times. it was literally like torture. i spent that last two months of my pregnancy unable to work, lying on the couch or in bed on fentanyl patches, two 10/325 norcos every six hours and one belladonna and opium suppository every twelve hours. i teetered upon a very fine line of ugly crying and madness until louise was born.


    to this day i literally don’t know how i survived it and came out with a happy and healthy baby in the end. you have all of my empathy kate. i hope that little fucker passes soon. i still have mine as a souvenir. someday i will show it to louise and tell her how it nearly killed me and/or drove me insane. if i could have, i would have had a laser lithotripsy, but since i was pregnant and i couldn’t have an x-ray to confirm that there even was a stone, it was not an option for me.

    i would have given anything to have my mommy there with me, but she lives hundreds and hundreds of miles away in montana. luckily, my husband, who just so happens to be the best husband in the world, was there by my side the entire time, even sleeping in the unbelievably uncomfortable chair that was in my room every night. when he couldn’t be there with me, my dad was, i never had to be alone, but there’s just something about moms. i am so grateful for my husband and my dad, but there really isn’t anything as comforting as having your mama there by your side when you are scared, in pain and sick, ya know?

    so, kate, please don’t allow yourself to suffer too much longer, have a laser lithotripsy if you can. my heart and thoughts are with you. plese please PLEASE feel better soon.
    p.s. sorry for the long drawn out story, but as you’ve probably guessed, you really stuck a nerve! as ridiculous, weak and lame as it sounds, i swear that i have ptsd from all of it (including louise’s birth, which is an even LONGER and MORE drawn out story if you can believe that), seriously, no lie!!!

  6. I hope you’re feeling better soon. I love being taken care of by my mom, I wish she lived closer. Thank goodness for great Moms!

  7. Aw, that’s amazing and sweet. There’s nothing like Mommy to make you feel better.

    And I know you rocked it solo with the boys. I mean, the Eddie/ Charlie cuddle? Slayed. Me.

    Glad to hear you’re better!

  8. Awe–you are so right! I still call my mom when I get sick–they just have a way, don’t they? So glad your mom could be there with you. Hope you feel better soon!

  9. Awww, there’s nothing like a mommy when you are sick, truly. I’m sorry you’re in a lot of pain, but I’m glad your mom is nearby. I hope my kids always call me if they need someone to help with their puke bucket. (Words I NEVER thought I’d say …)

  10. That’s so awesome….
    not the kidney stone and vomiting into buckets, but that your mommy was there….
    I would never think to call mine, she didn’t even come around when my 4 month old had OHS at four months old….thought phone calls checking in were enough…I’m so jealous

  11. I hope you feel better soon! Thank goodness for mommies.

  12. Ow, sounds awful. Please take care!

  13. Mommy is still Mommy for her baby girl, and I hope I am the same when my girls grow up (if they can find me, since I will be (finally) hopping from one exotic locale to another ha ha!)

  14. Moms are the best. I still call my mom when I get sick. She always knows just what to say.

  15. I once stayed home from work sick and I didn’t want to be alone. My mommy cancelled her nail appointment to come sit with me. I was in my late 20s.

  16. My mom is the one I call too. She came over for an hour one afternoon when I thought I was dying with a migraine. She took my daughter over night when we all got some kind of bug at Christmas and I couldn’t walk I was so dehydrated and my husband also was puking. Moms are the best.

  17. First, glad to hear you are better now. I hate throwing up too.
    Second, my mom is my go to person too. In fact, she’ll be coming to stay with us this weekend just so my husband and I can get our house in order (so messy). Yep. She’s coming to watch the 3 kids for 2 days…. And lucky me, she’ll probably wash the dishes, cook, and do all sorts of other household stuff that I won’t even ask for. And when I am sick, she’s the one who rushes over to tend to my kids (and me – when the hubs is at work). Either that, or I go to her house with the kids and she takes care of us there. 😉 Mommys are the bestest ever. 😀

  18. Moms are pretty amazing! So glad yours is close. Feel better, friend. xoxo

  19. Only getting to this a week later . . . I hope you’re back to your normal self now.

    But, I too, when I was single, would call my mom whenever I was just the littlest thing would hit me. Moms are amazing, aren’t they?