a nation of my own

Happy Wednesday (and el día de los muertos)!  It’s time again for me to bring you a lovely new Recruit.  If you are new, you can find out what a Sluiter Nation Recruit is here.

This week I am happy to bring you Elizabeth from The Writer Revived and The Mom Pledge.  I can’t even remember when Elizabeth and I first connected.  I feel like she has just always been there in my corner rooting me on while I whined spilled my feelings to you all here on the blog.

Elizabeth is a lovely writer and I have been honored to be a bloggy friend of hers.  She has done something I don’t think I ever could.  She quit working to be a stay at home mom.  I still don’t know how you SAHMs do it every day…you ALL have my utmost respect.

I am beyond honored to have Elizabeth here today sharing some of her words about how she manages.


The feeling of isolation I experienced when I left my career to stay home with my daughter was intense. My world shrunk so severely it was essentially limited to the four walls of our house.

And really, in the very early days I only spent my time in the bedroom, bathroom or kitchen. I don’t think that is a natural state of existence for anyone, least of all someone as social as I am.

It was the one aspect of stay at home motherhood I was least prepared for. I had been focused on what was in my daughter’s best interest. I’m not sure I gave much consideration to whether it was in mine.

Wanting to stay home with her was one thing. The reality of being there was quite another. I had almost no connection to the outside world. And I hated it.

Blogging and social media enabled me to connect with other moms. To feel as if I had a life again outside of those four walls. I daresay it saved me.

I started blogging to reconnect with my passion for writing. I had no idea it would connect me with women from all over the world I could relate to.

When I’m facing an issue with my child or have a parenting question? They share their experiences with me in an honest, nonjudgmental way.

When I need to rant? They understand.

When I’m having a difficult day and think I can’t take one more minute? They help me through.

When I am working toward a goal? They encourage me.

When I have something to celebrate? They are my cheering section.

They make me laugh. They make me cry. They make me think.

They add to my life. They brighten my days. They inspire me.

Some people say you don’t really get to know others online. You don’t “see” their authentic self. You see snippets. The better side. The part they want you to see.

I say I know more about some of the people I’ve met online than I do the people I know “in real life.” And vice versa. And I do consider them to be friends.

I’ve built my own little nation, full of amazing women I adore and admire. In the process, I developed a greater sense of myself and where I am in my life. My world no longer has walls. It has expanded, and so has my point of view.

I am absolutely thrilled and honored to be part of Sluiter Nation. Thank you, Katie, for inviting me!


No, thank YOU, Elizabeth for sharing your heart with us today!

You should of COURSE go check out Elizabeth at her blog…

A beautiful  way to get to know Elizabeth if you don’t already know her:  Celebrating

Her most popular post to date (and the reason there are certain times of the month Eddie does NOT see me in the bathroom):  Say What!?

A big topic on her blog is the fact that her daughter struggles with Childhood Apraxia of Speech: Chatty Cathy

An absolute fave of Elizabeth’s and a wonderful impromptu moment:  The Places We’ll Go

Don’t be shy…hop on over and visit Elizabeth.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. I respect Elizabeth so much; as a mother, a writer, and the creator of The Mom Pledge.

    And I couldn’t agree more that you can end up knowing your online friends (and certainly staying more in touch with them) than you do with friends you’ve met in the Real World.

    Who’s to say that Online isn’t real?

    As you said, Elizabeth: It’s a nation. And everyone’s invited to the party.
    What we make of it is our own choice.

  2. I can relate 100%. Staying home was what both my husband and I talked about very early on. I thought it was going to be wonderful, I never knew how alone I was going to feel. I think one of the major issues for us, we both worked at Google and I was feeling very left out of the “social” aspect of working. If it wasn’t for my “online” friends and mommy group I think I would have gone mad.

    • I’m not sure what I thought it was going to be, but I definitely did not envision what it turned out to be. I don’t miss working, but like you, I do miss the social aspect of being around other adults. And having actual conversation. Talking to a toddler all day can make you feel you are losing it!

  3. Staying home is a ummm journey…. I write as three yr old twins try to climb into over and on top of the chair in which I am sitting. Breathe sigh etc etc.

  4. Bloggers do rock.

    I must say, I have some lovely friendships that had their seeds in the blogosphere.

    It’s pretty magical.

    And, as you said, especially when you are feeling isolated — the internet is there 24/7. Which can be very comforting.

  5. The only downside to being a SAHM, imo, is the lack of social interaction with people your own age or in the same stage of life. I’ve always been introverted, and generally prefer to be home, so I thought the transition would be easy, but it’s very different from being home with your own interests and ability to go anywhere and do any thing, than it is to be home with a young child or children. I’ve definitely leaned on the internet for social interaction in the nearly 3 years since I quit working, and my small talk skills are improving as I strike up conversations with other moms when our kids decide to play together. Parenting is hard work, and can be made easier if we just lean on each other.