the first letter

Dear Baby #2,

Huh.  I wish I had a better name for you than “Baby #2”.  We have a few real names floating around for you already, but those are waiting until we find out if you are a boy or a girl.

I have to be honest, there are a LOT of guesses out there already that say “girl”.  Now, if you are really a boy?  I don’t want you to feel bad that so many people are guessing girl.  I think a lot of it is wishful thinking.  You know, since we have a boy already.  But many people guessed your big brother was a girl too and that was not true, so you can’t put too much stock in guessing.

Daddy and I don’t really have a guess yet.

It’s hard to guess.  Mostly because it doesn’t matter to us.  We just want you.

Can you remember that?  We want you very, very much.

I need to make sure you know that because I am going to be honest with you.

It’s hard being pregnant with you.  At least so far.

Baby, I am sick all the time.  And when I am not sick, I am exhausted.  Or I have a bad headache from not being able to sleep at night because my sinuses are constricting.

The doctor has me on anti-nausea pills and I am really still pretty miserable.

There are many days when I wonder if I am going to make it through this first trimester.  I cry a lot.

I know you hear this.   Or at least sense it.

Please know that this is all worth it.  All the bad that I am feeling is so worth it if it means you will make it to us healthy in March.

Daddy is keeping this family running so I can focus on growing you.

He is so busy with your big brother and keeping the dishes and the laundry done.  He is pretty amazing.  I can’t wait for you to meet him.  Soon, when you get bigger,  you will hear him talk to you and feel his hand when you kick me.

We haven’t done much to prepare this house for one more person yet.

Your brother, Eddie’s, toys are all over the house and his new room isn’t done yet.  We haven’t gotten me a bigger car yet either.  It’s been pretty much all about my being exhausted.

But don’t think we aren’t excited.

We so are.

I have put away all my “regular” clothes and decided to wear stretchy and/or maternity clothes because even though I have lost weight since being pregnant with you, my middle is already thicker.

I am told this is normal with the second child.  I think people are just being nice to me.  But I’ll take it because maternity clothes are WAY more comfy than my regular work clothes.

Whenever I think about baby stuff, I start to day dream about you.

I can’t help but wonder what you’ll be like.  Will you be like your brother as a newborn or will you be a good sleeper?  Will you be a good eater?  Will you be cuddley or would you rather be laid down?

Will you have your brother’s curls?  Will you have my blue eyes?  Will you have your daddy’s dimples?

Will you be colicky and gassy and need soy formula like your brother?

It’s ok if you do.

Daddy and I dealt with it once, we can do it again.

We love you.

You are a Sluiter.

Get excited.

We are.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. What a beautiful letter.

    You should write the baby a letter once a month or every other month and then print them out and put them in a baby book. A great way for the baby to know how you were feeling while you were pregnant. . .

  2. Awww.

    Baby #2 is going to be an exactly perfect addition to the Sluiter family.

  3. eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! so excited for you! one day at a time, mama.

  4. I may have actually squee’d.

    Baby 2 is in great hands, it appears. May he or she be a cuddly, yet independent, sleeper who eats well.

  5. If I haven’t already said it here, “Congratulations.” Baby#2 is so lucky to have these letters and the record of how excited everyone was before birth!! Doesn’t it make you a little misty to think of your baby someday going back and reading your blog!

  6. Aw. So sweet. Hopefully the 2nd trimester will get better for ya. Such a great way to document your pregnancy 🙂

  7. I love this letter. it’s absolutely awesome. xo

  8. What a beautiful letter!

  9. I hope the 2nd trimester is better for you! I was miserable in the first trimester but I am STILL getting sick with only weeks to go. Praying for you!

  10. Awwww, how very exciting… well, except for the nausea, and that’s going to pass. Congratulations!

  11. I loved the letter, but my favorite line (go figure, I’m weird, maybe) was this one:

    You are a Sluiter.

    That made me smile. Because no matter what, your baby is already a part of the nation.


  12. I love this! It’s so sweet and tender and sounds just like a happy expectant mommy.

    I vote for another boy, by the way. Boys rock. 🙂

  13. also, baby #2? your mommy is a fabulous writer and fantastic person and we all love her and YOU very much already.

    just say yes to the ability to eat and feel rested! hopefully soon, mama. you’re doing good work.

  14. This is so precious! I wish I would have done this throughout my pregnancies.

    When I was pregnant with my second baby everyone thought he was a girl as well. Mostly because we already had a boy, and my second pregnancy was so much different (read horrible) than my first. Nope, all boy! And I love ALL of him!

  15. I was so sick my first trimester with baby #2 and lost weight as well. (Then I gained like 60 pounds.) It’s hard with another baby running around. But worth it. And your #2 knows you feel that way.

  16. Can we call baby Chuck? That would make me happy. I know that it would make baby happy too.

  17. I’m so sorry you feel so bad for you, mostly because I felt like you do, for the whole of my pregnancy. I’m just so glad you are focusing on the good stuff, that baby who you waited and prayed for, even being cheeky and silly with them, it’s all going to be GOOD in March.

    thanks for sharing this letter with all of us. xo

  18. For a pre-baby name, you can always call him/her The Kid or go with my sister’s method and pick a gender neutral word that invokes something small: Button or Seedling or something like that. At any rate, be well.

  19. I wish I had written letters like this one to my children when I was pregnant.
    You’ll treasure these, Katie.
    Get excited. 🙂 I love that.
    And you.