Music To Breakup By

It’s time to add another Recruit to Sluiter Nation!  Need a refresher on what a Sluiter Nation Recruit is?  Check here.
This week’s recruit is someone who had I been following on twitter forever, but only occasionally clicked over to her blog.  Until recently.

I was having a bit of a bloggy identity crisis and I was looking to read some new people.  I started scanning tweeps who amuse me, and I came across Alex aka @L8enough and her blog Late Enough, and thought, why not?

She is now a must read every day.

Alex has adorable, pantsless kids, a doctor husband, and she writes posts that make me wonder if she is me.  I mean, we BOTH have thick eyebrows, so we COULD be the same person, right?

Anyway, I read her every day now. You’ll see why if you keep reading.


Music To Breakup By

I’m so excited to be recruited! I love Kate of Sluiter Nation. Even if I thought it was Slutty Nation when I first met her (and, when I wrote that, I wrote “fist met her,” which is even more awkward). Anyhoo, let’s move on to awkward music and bad breakups!

We’ve all been there.

We thought: I’m with THE ONE.

Then we got dumped.

What a jerk!

And if that wasn’t bad enough, we chose music during those deep dark days.

Sad songs to listen to over and over and over because what else can we do while crying and sitting in a closet?

My husband’s breakup anthem after a three year relationship in college was “Love’s So Heavy” by Rollins Band.

The song is filled with such sweet lines such as:

Can you catch me as I’m falling past your window pane?

Love’s so heavy

Every time I want to be with you

Is the time that it’s time to go

Oh well

The closet is the ONLY place I’d listen to that song.

I had an ex-boyfriend who sat me down post-breakup to tell me that he was listening to “Beer” by Reel Big Fish today. And yesterday and the day before and the day before.

Then he played it for me:

She called me late last night, to say she loved me so

but I guess she changed her mind.

Well I should have known, it wouldn’t be all right,

but I can’t live without her

So I won’t even try.

Me: Well, that was awkward.

I tried to think back to my worst breakup, but I can’t remember my music.  All the drinking, hiring people who used crystals to open my chakras and praying that he would either come back to me or fall off the Earth, must’ve destroyed my music memories.

I even googled best breakup songs to see if it jarred my ears.

Google seems to think I’m just hungry.

More importantly, I discovered that there’s an ENTIRE SITE dedicated to breakup songs JUST IN CASE we don’t have our own collection of sad and depressing ballads.

And the best part of the site?  Every other ad is how to get back our partner. Way to hate your audience,


Sadly, I still couldn’t find my breakup anthem even among the 250+ choices.

Probably because I was ALWAYS full of angst back in the day, and there’s really no place to go when you listen to Pearl Jam’s “Black” and Ben Folds Five’s “Magic” for fun.


What music do you remember as being good breakup music??

Need more Late Enough?  Of course you do.

She is funny:  Whole Foods:  Your Cute Little Carts May Have Won Over My Son But You Won’t Win Me Until You Get Some Decent Bagels.

She is serious: The Yellow Bow (this is one of my FAVORITES as a mom of a boy, by the way).

She is weird: On Our Next Date He Asks How I Want To Die.  We’ve Been Together Ever Since.

And she is not afraid to tackle the big issues: Teaching My Children About God:  Information vs Indoctrination

Go LIKE her on facebook and follower her on twitter for more of her lovely self.


In related news, I very much do NOT want to break up with my dream of going to BlogHer.  Cort bought me the ticket and I just have to get there.

But since I did not win any sponsorships or grants, I am forced to Plan B:  the donation button.

I am now a beggar.

So if you like this beggar and you want me to get out of town (to BlogHer), please throw some change my way.

Donate button is on the left side bar if you’re looking for it.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. Thanks Katie for introducing Alex – I just hopped over to her blog and I’m hooked!

    And breakup songs? I listened to this one Maxwell song over and over, I think it was called “A Woman’s Work”. I have no idea why. I think it was because the tune was tear-inducing and I loved Maxwell. Eeek.

  2. Cher’s “Life After Love”
    It doesn’t get much sappier (or more impowering) than Cher!

    Of course, this was a high school break-up. So when I hear that song now, I just laugh. I was so young.

  3. I’ve never had a breakup song because I’ve never had a breakup. However. When I was in grade school “Lost In Your Eyes” was, like, my theme song. And “Eternal Flame”. Because I totally loved a boy all throughout grades 1-8 who never loved me back. Ah, the young heartache.

  4. I SO listened to Pearl Jam’s Black after breakups. Over and over. And I think I did sit in my closet, no less…

  5. When I was going through my divorce last year, I listened to “So What” by P!nk. Sang it at the top of my lungs. Boy that made me feel good. Also, “Funhouse” from the same album. I literally danced up and down the halls of my house singing it.

  6. OH I could probably make up a BREAKUP list all by myself, I’ve dumped and been dumped so many times that I should blog about it. LOL

    I really like her, I have been to the blog and was giggling. I’ll be following.

    and I’m hoping that you get to BLOGHER, I will send some change to get you on the plane!

  7. LOL! I love that google thought she was hungry. I don’t have a specific breakup song, pretty much every song on the radio made me cry.

  8. is it weird that I am commenting on my own blog? eh.

    Ok, so I listened to the entire St. Anger album by Metallica when I went through an awful break up in 2003.

    I cannot listen to that album without getting oddly cranky.

    Also? I had a college roommate who listened to Black by PJ on continuous loop when she got dumped. I had to take away the CD. Because we listened to CDs back then.

  9. Well, I definitely went through an Alanis Morissette angry girl phase after a college break-up. We weren’t even dating long. I’m also big Pearl Jam fan, and Ben Folds does have some good dark stuff. It’s been so long since I’ve had a real break-up, I can’t remember what I was listening to at the time…

  10. I’m sad! Break-ups are no fun. I don’t really a break-up song, but I remember that every song on Pearl Jam’s 1994 album reminded me of a boy I went out with and had a major crush on. It didn’t last… Songs like “Don’t Call Me Daughter” always make me think of him. Thanks for taking me back to ’94! I think… 🙂

  11. As a dance teacher… I’ve musiced and danced my way through many break ups. They’re the best, quickest way to move from point A to point B! 🙂

  12. I love me some Alex!

    An awesome break up some is Black T-shirt by Ben Folds Five. Angry and hilarious.

  13. I LOVE that Alex incorporated Google God into her break up post. Just goes to show you how much times have changed!

  14. There was a very bad summer when I listened to John Meyer’s “Love Song to No One”, and Reel Big Fish’s “Where Have You Been?” A lot.

  15. Alex is hilarious

    Go Your Own Way by Fleetwood Mac is my favorite. The rage in the song is beautiful.

  16. I love when someone features a blogger who is new to me. Can’t wait to visit. And here I go I’m going to admit what I listened to over and over again in the day to drown out my sorrows… “Total Eclipse of the Heart”

  17. OH…. Lightening Crashes.

    My heart just broke again.

    AND I agree with Jessica, I love getting introduced to new bloggers.

  18. Oh google…making light of a sad situation one hungry break up at a time.

  19. Ah, I was super deep and listened to black as an angst-prover. Which is why my break up song was “why do fools fall in love?” nothing like kicking it 50s style.

  20. Just so you know, you have great readers, Kate. These comments are freakin’ awesome!

  21. “Evaporated” by Ben Folds Five. “Baby Can I Hold You?” by Traci Chapman. and call me a child of the 90s but “Don’t Speak” by No Doubt.

  22. Nothing Compares 2 U by Sinead O Connor. Sigh. First time I got dumped in high school.


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