Another Reason

Yay!  It’s Wednesday!  Time for another blogger to be Recruited to Sluiter Nation!  Don’t know what a Recruit is?  Read all about it here.

Today I bring you Tonya, the beautiful blogging voice behind Letters for Lucas.

I am honored to call Tonya not just my bloggy friend, but also one of my roomies for BlogHer coming up in August.

Tonya is the mother of the the almost-two-years-old Lucas.  She and I bond over being mommy’s to little boys.  She says what I feel…only so much more eloquently.


I don’t like Babies-R-Us.

I try to avoid entering that store like it’s the plague.

There aren’t any locations very close to where I live, the customer service leaves a lot to be desired, it’s too big and entirely too bright for me.

It’s also extremely overwhelming.

I kind of lose my mind trying to figure out what’s what whenever I’m there, but it is the go-to baby supply store and it’s where EVERY expectant mother registers for baby-to-be gifts.

I registered there.

I pride myself on only having visited five times since Lucas was born.

One of those times was last week.

While on the hunt for a shower gift (what else?) and about to pull out my hair trying to find a specific baby gas relief medication and disposable bibs in a multi-sized pack, I suddenly found myself sobbing.

And this time, it wasn’t because of the confusing registry or not being able to find someone to help me.


burp cloths

scratch free mittens


I began walking aimlessly down the aisles and I remembered registering for my own baby shower.

I was filled with so much joy and excited anticipation.

tummy time pillows and mats


teething rings


I became nostalgic as I skimmed over all the products for newborns and infants, all the tiny, soft, delicate little things and it hit me—we have a lot of these items at home, but we don’t need them anymore.

power formula

crib sheets

sleep sacks

bouncy seats

Lucas is no longer a baby.

He’s growing up.


He’ll be TWO in less than two weeks.

I still have a lot of joy and excited anticipation about what lies ahead, but I miss my baby.

And now?

I have another reason to hate Babies-R-Us.


The lovely Tonya can be found on twitter, but you should also go get to know her blog, Letters for Lucas as well.

She writes about leaving the house she loves, but has outgrown in The House that Built Me.  This one hits home for me because I know eventually I will have to pack up and leave the house that built me as well.

She perfectly sums up a day in the life of a mom in On Any Given Day.

Again she strikes a familiar chord when she tells about how her son will grow up without her parents there to grandparent him him Mysterious Ways.

And she shows us a woman we have all been in Right on Ludington.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. So sad when our babies grow up but it is nice to be done with some of those things.

    Next time you need a gift for a baby shower get a gift card. Or at least that is what I do, along with a pack of diapers.

  2. I hate Babies R Us too! Too much stuff and too little help. When I did find a “helpful sales associate” she asked my due date. When I told her she looked at the size of my belly and said, “Are you sure you aren’t carrying twins?” (I wasn’t). You’d think if you’re in the business of selling stuff to pregnant women and new moms you’d learn how to be sensitive!

    Oh, and can I relate to missing the baby! My “baby” will be 7 soon–how did THAT happen?!?!

  3. Two of my favorite ladies!!! Tonya I love your words! This piece made me nod. I hate that store too…it’s so overwhelming and bright! Plus with my boys being 3 now and no more babies coming to us I felt what you felt spades.

    Thanks for giving words to what I’ve been feeling.

    Great recruit Katie!!!!! Smooches to u both!

  4. I went to buy a gift for a baby shower the other day and was hit with the memories of being there for my own kiddos. It made me so sad that I won’t ever have those itty bitty things again.

    But ugh, that store is terrible. I remember when we first went to register; I thought I was so ready, armed with my Baby Bargains. We walked in, filled out the paperwork, scanned our carseat and left after wandering aimlessly around and practically having panic attacks for almost 30 minutes.

  5. Yay, Tonya is one of my favourites.

    I hate Babies R Us too, for all the same reasons. We’ve got some great baby stores here, though, so I’m glad we found those and didn’t get stuck with that stupid store.

    I still wander down the baby aisle at drugstores and grocery stores and look at the baby stuff. A tiny part of me wonders, “Is there anything I need?” even though of course there isn’t. It just makes me want another baby and that’s, well, complicated ;

  6. Thanks for having me Kate, I’m so happy to be a part of the Nation!!

    Glad I’m not the only one that dislikes Babies R Us.

  7. Ahhh the stroll around Babies-R-Us…. always seems to kick me into “I want another one” mode.
    Which is why I, too, hate it!! 🙂

  8. I know exactly what you mean. I STILL feel it in that store, I don’t know how they do it. Something in the air?

    There are so many things to get but the only one that matters is that little baby. And they don’t stay that way for long.

  9. OMG! I was just there on Monday and I seriously wanted to slit my wrists, after shoving 96 count boxes of diapers into my ears.
    Why is the music so loud? Why does it attract entire families and their extended families to shop together like a flash mob?
    And don’t get me started on how overwhelming it is. Hello, MOMMY BRAIN!

    Yeah, apparently, I needed to vent.

  10. Aww, sweet. My only girl is THREE now! So hard to believe.

  11. So true. I can’t even walk down the baby aisle in any store without feeling baby pangs. I don’t want another baby, until I see all those tiny baby paraphernalia. Now my sister is expecting, so I have an excuse to stop at those stores…

  12. I have always loved BRU. In fact, I was sad that the one closest to us is a converted TRU, so it’s only half of a regular BRU.

    And I am not a baby fan.

    But I love the store. 🙂

  13. Worst. Service. Ever.

    Everyone told me how fast babies grow, and it is true, but I wish someone had explained to me this way: Babies aren’t babies for very long. I don’t know why, but that statement is distinctly different for me.

    I miss my babies! *tear*

  14. I just recently started following Tonya and love her. Yay for awesomesauce new recruits!