Top Ten Tuesdays: 2011 To Do’s

This week’s Top Ten clearly had to be about the lovely new year we have just entered, but I do not do resolutions.

In fact, I agree with my friend, Lynn, who said that resolutions imply that something was wrong with me that needs fixing. I am sick of feeling like I have to fix myself.

So instead of talking like I am all cracked and needing of repair, I am going to focus on Ten Things I want to do this year.  Not change about myself, but actual THINGS.

#10: Try knitting-

I’ve mentioned this on twitter and elsewhere, but I think this would be a really fun thing to try.  The funny thing is, Cortney agrees.  I like to be able to talk and be present with  my family or to watch some TV with Cort.  But I need to be DOING something.  Lately it’s jump on the computer or read a book.  But if I learn to knit, I can stay with what is going on in the room rather than be in my own world.

#9: Go away for a weekend with Cortney-

We did this last year for our anniversary.  We spent a night away in Detroit to see a Tigers game.  We can do that again and I would be happy.  Or we could go somewhere else.  Whatever we have money for, but I have come to realize that spending alone time that is AWAY is important for us.  We are together in this house a LOT due to our current situation.  We need that NOT at home time for US to be good.

#8: Go away as a family-

Again, last year we successfully did this by traveling to Indy.  We were nervous about the drive and the stay with Eddie…but everything went GREAT.  I would do it again in a heartbeat…hopefully for the State Fair this time.

# 7:  finish a crafty project-

I have one started that is for someone.  That is all i can say.  I would love to finish it.  So I am going to.

#6: Get to Chicago…twice-

I WILL do this.  Once to have a girls day with Tonya (my BFF) and once as a family for some touristy stuff.  We love that city and there really is no reason for this to NOT to happen.

#5: Drop extra-curricular duties at school-

I’ve already started this process.  They take up too much of my time and since I live so far away from school and now have a little family, it’s not fair to them.  I’ve done an extra-curricular for seven years.  It’s someone else’s turn.

#4: Finish Eddie’s big boy room –

I will do everything in my power to ensure that before this year is done?  My child has a big boy bedroom to move to when/if he should need to do so.  Until then, it will be a lovely playroom.

#3: Finish the downstairs bathroom-

Again, we are having a troupe of 12 adults and an uncountable number of children to our house this summer. One bathroom is not acceptable.  This WILL get done.  2011 is the year of the bathroom!

#2: Clean my car-

As I type this I cannot tell you the last time I cleaned out the inside of my car OR washed the outside.  I realize the outside is as easy as going through a carwash.  I have not done this.  Salt and grime has been eating my car for over a year.  I know subconsciously it’s because I want a newer, bigger vehicle.  But this car has been so good to me…I need to show her some love too.

#1: Touch my husband more-

Get your mind out of the gutter, you pervs!  This is serious.  We lost Cort’s grandpa on Christmas day and at his funeral, Cort’s grandma got up and told an entire room full of people that she can never once remember in 53 years of being married to the love of her life…cannot remember ONE time when grandpa turned her away when she needed a hug or a kiss or just a shoulder.  But at the same time, she can remember thousands of times she shoo-ed him away because she was busy, or had a toddler on her hip, or whatever.  She also recalled saying this fact in front of gramps once and he wasn’t even aware he was like this.

Cort has inherited this immediate love–this always there-ness–from his grandpa.  I want to not turn his love away.  So I guess that is sort of a resolution…something to “work on”.

What do you want to “get done” in 2011?

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. Katie-
    Great ideas! I tried knitting but I can’t knit and type and blogging won.
    I used to do resolutions but when they would conflict I’d toss them all (i.e. get more sleep v. go to the gym every morning.) Now I keep a list of priorities on my desk; FAMILY, WORK, WRITING, EXERCISE. If things fit into one of those categories, I try to give it my best. If something doesn’t fit, I try to give it the most polite, “No thank you” I can manage.
    Good luck to you and yours in the New Year!

    • I really like the idea of having priorities rather than resolutions. I do the same thing…I toss things out if the conflict with another priority thus squashing my resolutions. Having a visual list of what order my priorities are in helps with making decisions too. When Cort’s grandpa was sick and I was trying to decide whether to take a day off work, I remembered that family is at the top of my list, so taking the day off won out. It made life a lot less stressful.

      Thanks for the words of encouragement!!

  2. What a precious story about Cort’s grandparents… that is so true in my house too. I need to make that a goal this year too!

    • She was so lovely when she told the story. She also reminded us to enjoy our little chats because someday we would want to tell our love something, and he/she wouldn’t be there. so sad.

  3. I LOVE your #1. This is the story of my husband and I. I think I will work on it as well. Great list!

    • Yes, Grams really inspired me to be a better spouse. To cherish every minute we have together!

  4. We just got back from snow country, and my car is coated in salt. I don’t want a new one, so I’d better get on that. The interior will just have to wait for another lifetime.

    • it’s so hard to be motivated to wash my car when in two seconds it is coated in salt again. Lovely Michigan winters.

  5. Knitting is an excellent hobby. I’ll teach you.
    And ditto with the touching my husband. There’s always something.

    • Yay for learning to knit! I have a project I have to finish first…then I will take you up on learning!

      And yes…it seems like women crave touching most, but turn it away most too. I need to get my priorities straight. If I accepted it more, I might not long for affirmation as much, ya know?

  6. That last one? Rocks.
    How many times have I done that, where I got irritated that he tried giving me a hug whilst doing dishes…sigh…thanks for opening my eyes my dear.

  7. #1 is a fantastic idea. I need to think about that too.

    Also, if you clean your car can you come do mine? The back seat looks like the place where teddy grahams and crackers go to die.

    • ok…”the place where teddy grahams and crackers go to die”. I laughed OUT LOUD at that. Mine appears to be the collection center for all diet coke cans and bottles. oops. That is so trashy of me, but my car is so darn small and I am in it ALL the time. sigh…

  8. Somehow just found you over here. Trying to figure out how I’m still following you but it’s not showing up right in my blogroll. Love the new look! :> And that’s a fantastic list. Love love love it!

    • Weird! Glad you found me though! I thought maybe you had quit the Nation! I would have been sad! Love your comments! And thank you for all the compliments, my friend!

  9. I’m totally with you on #10, and some of the others as well. But if I had to pick just one? It would be #1. I need to do the same.

    • yay for knitting! we should have a whole blog of bloggers who knit! he he he.

      and yes, connections with our loved one are so very important.

  10. awesome goals! i have complete faith that you will complete all this and more! I think I need to steal your idea of a weekend getaway. FOR SURE. Maybe even a couple of them!

    • we did just ONE last year and it became incredibly clear how important it was for our relationship now that we have a little guy at home. It was a time for us to be the us we were BEFORE having a child. There was no communicating about parenting him in the moment, just communication. I totally recommend it!

      And thanks for being such a lovely cheerleader! I am so lucky!

  11. I know that many people love to knit and they create beautiful things but don’t underestimate the power of crochet! I love to do that and I only have to keep track of ONE needle instead of two! If you want to learn how to crochet I can totally teach you!

    • hmmm…I may have to take you up on this. I am so not kidding either. I am looking to get CRAFTY this year!

  12. #9: Tiger game on your anniversary. I have already told you how much of a good idea that would be this year!

  13. What a great list, Katie!
    I took up knitting before Katie was born and I never really progressed past the scarf.
    I have about 38 scarves in the closet here that I’ve never worn.
    For me, it was more about the calm of knitting than the final product.


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