plus one

I have always dreamed of having four boys.

Cortney is happy with the two we have, but is willing to go for one more baby.

Eddie wants a sister so badly that he begs for one daily.

Charlie hates to share and is fiercely jealous when another baby is in my arms.

Three against one, Bird. Sorry.

I guess this means Sluiter Nation is currently in negotiations about increasing the population from 4 to 5.

Of course with me, it’s not as easy as “we want to have another baby, so let’s get pregnant now…weeeeee!!!”  Unfortunately we have a million things we have to consider; the first of which is when would my maternity leave fall in the school year and will I have enough sick days that I can take the full twelve weeks off paid?

We really can’t afford for me to be off unpaid, and mentally fewer than twelve weeks of maternity leave are just not Ok, Charlie’s birth date was idea since the twelve weeks off butted up against twelve more weeks off for summer break. Six months home with my little guy was perfect for me.

We also have to think about my medication. Currently I am on a pretty high dose of Celexa for my depression. My OB would like to see me cut that dose in half at LEAST until my 12th week of pregnancy. We already know from when I was pregnant with Charlie that I can’t wean off completely. I guess I’m going to be discussing this with my therapist at my next appointment and then with the prescribing doc if necessary.

And of course there is my age. I’m thirty-five, almost thirty-six, which means that I am now considered “advanced maternal age.” On top of all the other risks and issues I have with staying pregnant, there is now a higher risk of the baby having issues.

Yet we feel our family is not quite complete.

I have SO many thoughts and feelings about what this will do to our family and the changes we will have to make. I’ve discussed with my therapist all the depression stuff that could (probably will) happen with another baby. There is a lot going on in my heart and mind…and probably Cortney’s too.

But we agree: it’s almost time for another.

And so we pray for that little one who we do not yet know.

I mean, there’s room on this couch for one more, yes?

adding one more?

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About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.

Comments

  1. Squeeing for you! We are just about ready for another one too 🙂

  2. There is definitely more room and I wish you nothing but the best. You are a great mom, Katie 🙂

  3. Oh! I thought you were going to be announcing … 🙂 But sure. I think there’s ALWAYS room for one more if you and your family feel like there is. Sending loads of love your way, mama!
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  4. I am of the firm believe that there’s always room for one more! Thinking all the good things for you and family as you prepare the way for baby three! xx.
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  5. One more, one more!
    I’m rooting for you. xo
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  6. Good luck!
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  7. Yeah! We didn’t start having babies until I was 35. It is all good!
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  8. What happy, hopeful post! Definitely room on the couch for another little one. My daughter asked and asked for a third baby so often, I found myself unexpectedly pregnant! I guess God was listening to her- I bet He heard Eddie, too!
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  9. Hi honey, I was on anti-depressants and was 38 when I had William. 🙂

    There’s always room for one more!
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  10. I’m so happy for you! Yes there is always room for another little one. I want another one but my husband is not on board. Our littlest is 6 months so he has time to change his mind. Eddie and Charlie would be great big brothers to a little sister!
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  11. I think the couch looks nice and cozy and ready to welcome a baby!
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  12. Totally room for one more. I’m sure you guys will get it all figured out.
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  13. Go for it! You will get it figured out! So wish I had not hesitated on this in my own fam.
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  14. YES! Room for one more! I’m so excited! You are going to have so much fun!!!
    xoxoxo
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  15. Yeah, baby! There are always a million reasons to not have a baby and a million and one to have a baby. 😉 Things will work out and you have a huge support system.
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  16. You would never regret having another baby – you would only regret deciding not to. So, get pregnant NOW and have two more. xoxoxoxo
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  17. Good luck on the journey! I’m 34 weeks with boy #3 and it is no easy decision to make. It’s so hard to get your heart on the same track in your head when it is screaming “Just get pregnant already!”

  18. Advanced maternal age makes us sound SO damn old. I hate that term.
    Best wishes!
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  19. There is room on that couch, for sure. 🙂
    Wishing you all the best.
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  20. What’s crazy and old have to do with it?
    The Travolta’s are cranking out kids and they’re practically dead.
    That was mean.
    Sorry.
    You will know when it’s a step over “almost time”. You’re preparing and planning and that is a beautiful thing.
    My vagina is closed because of crazy and I’m finally coming to terms with it. It’s not responsible of me to make my egg into an awesome human…even though I’d rock at being their mom obviously. But I’m good with my boy. He fills all the holes in my soul that I never knew I had.
    Your boys are incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful mom. I hope that you can fill your ute with a beautiful baby.
    If there is room on your couch, can I come sit on it? I’ll bring popcorn. xoxo
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  21. aw that’s awesome! I’m happy for you guys (and slightly jealous:)

  22. As someone wisely and kindly said once to me, there is always room for one more.
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  23. Definitely room on that couch and in the hearts if all who love you guys. (Which is a pretty large cross section of the internet.) YAY!!
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  24. Aww I know that there is absolutely room on that couch for one more. Praying you get exactly that hun. Ya’ll will do fine it will work out exactly as it is supposed to..
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  25. Maternity leave was indisputable for me. We did not TTC until we had enough saved for me to take it. Then we got lucky with my EDD and we won’t have to worry about it that much, but regardless. I personally couldn’t dream of having a baby, not getting the time I wanted, and still maintaining my teacher life (I left sub plans for every day of my 2 months off with our first). But what works for me is different than you, and you shoudl follow your heart!
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  26. How exciting! We are currently in negotiations for another too.
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