The Waiting {and Guessing} Game

Yesterday I had my 12 week “new” OB appointment.  Of course, I’ve already had two appointments and countless blood draws before yesterday, so it wasn’t technically new, but if I wasn’t a special case, this would have been the first.

It took longer than the others because we weren’t there just to make sure the baby was still going strong.  We had to do all the lovely “obstetrics” tests.

Yes, this included me having to actually wear a gown instead of just “remove clothes from waist down”.

Paps were smeared, swabs were taken, breasts were examined, husband was uncomfortable.  All seemed normal.

And then he got out his little doppler thingy and smeared the gel on my tummy.  It was time to hear that little heartbeat for the first time.  In fact, this was really why Cort was along.

Now, remember, the past TWO appointments we got to SEE the heartbeat on the ultrasounds, but all momma’s know there is NOTHING like hearing it for the first time, so we were pretty geeked.

So the gel was smeared and the wand thingy was pushed all over my belly.  And again.  And some  more.

I would hear something and look at my doctor.

“That was you,” he would say without looking up.

And push the wand harder and around more.

“Let me grab my other one.  This one is shaped weird for these early dopplers.”

He stepped out and I looked at Cort.

“That one was shaped weird,” he said simply.  I knew he was reassuring me.

“Ok, this one will be better,” Dr V said as he came in.

More pushing (harder this time) and more navigating around my slimy belly.

Still nothing.

“Well,”  the doc said simply, “I’m going to grab the ultrasound machine because it’s just around the corner and we could do this all day.  That baby must just be shy today.  But we will find it!”

I looked at Cort.

He simply nodded as if everything was fine.

My feet began to sweat.

My past told me these sorts of situations did not end well.

My stomach turned.

“We are just going to do an abdominal one quick,” my kindly doc said. “We just want to see it’s there.”

The machine whirred on, the nurse pushed a couple buttons, and the wand glided across my belly.

Cort smiled.

“You see it then?” the doc said.

“Sure ‘nough,” Cort said.

They turned the monitor to me.

“Heartbeat looks to be about 155,” the Doc told me. (down from 171 three weeks prior)

I looked at Cort.

Everything was fine.

No.  Everything was great.

And in about 8 more weeks we will find out if that shy little baby is a boy or a girl.

As of yesterday my feelings are boy.

How about you?

What do you think Sluiter Baby will be?

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. FWIW they couldn’t find the heartbeat with the doppler until I was 16 weeks. It did get a couple extra ultrasounds and a lot more anxiety!

  2. Brianna Main says

    I think it’s going to be a girl Mrs.Sluiter =] <3

  3. My gut says BOY. And no matter what that baby is LOVED.

    I have been keeping you in my heart. I don’t know you, but your posts from the past few weeks tug at my heart. When things seem awful, just know that somewhere out there in Missouri is another mom who is sending positive thoughts and prayers your way to bring you strength and peace.

    And be sure to let us know if we need to start crocheting blue or pink stuff 🙂

  4. I love “pants off” appointments. not.
    3 out of my 4 pregnancies have had me get an ultrasound at 12 weeks because they can’t find the heartbeat, it’s a horrible feeling. Glad everything turned out ok.

    It’s a boy. I’m clairvoyant, or at least have a 50/50 chance. 🙂

  5. Oh, Katie.
    I lived that same experience with a much different outcome.
    I’m so relieved that your little bean is doing well.

  6. Emily at Tales of Fruit and Cake says

    Howdy, friend!

    So excited for you that your little one is growing great! I am two weeks behind you! 10 weeks today! We had our first appointment on this past Wednesday and after 5 minutes and two different midwives they finally found the HB. I didn’t even remember to ask what the rate was! I was just so excited to hear it.

    I’m psyched to be on this journey together!!

  7. Aww sending you lots of hugs and good wishes, girl!

  8. I’m so glad to hear that the littlest Sluiter is doing well, even if s/he was being sneaky at the ultrasound. As for the guess, I am terrible at predictions. I tend to always think the new baby is the same as the first baby, so boy!

  9. easier said than done, but try not to worry! 😉 that baby is growing strong and healthy. I remember around 18 weeks by doc said she heard missed heartbeats. had to go through the whole fetal Echocardiogram to have the heart looked at. i was so scared, but all turned out fine.

    put these things in God’s hands and He will take care of that little babe.

    and i’m guessing boy.

  10. I’m so happy to hear that your little bean is safe and sound and doing well.

  11. My heart started beating faster as I read and I heaved a huge sigh of relief at the end. I’m so happy to hear things are going well. I’m guessing boy with you. Just getting that vibe. 🙂

  12. I am thinking a Brother for Eddie…:) I am so glad that you and baby are a-ok!!! Thinking of you so often.

  13. I am so pleased to hear that everything is just as it should be. With our last pregnancy, we got to 10.5 weeks, heard a heartbeat one day and then it was gone the next, so I KNOW exactly how scared you must be each and every time you visit the OB. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

    I think you’re having another boy. 🙂

  14. I had 4 ultrasounds before I was 14 weeks because they couldn’t find the heartbeat, so I know what kind of sweaty, uncomfortable feeling that is. Glad the babe is doing well! 🙂 I am guessing GIRL! 🙂

  15. Heart rate dropped…I’m guessing boy.

  16. I had this scare with Maddie. Two Dopplers couldn’t find her heartbeat. And I had to wait about 15 minutes before U/S was available.

    We learned later on that I had previa and that was the reason for the Doppler not finding it that time.

  17. I think it’s so hard to imagine having anything other than the same sex child that you already have 🙂

  18. I think girl, but mama’s gut feelings are usually right. What is your “guess” date? I think we might be due at the same time. *That is if I was pregnant which I am not confirming or denying at this time* 🙂 Glad you got to see your little lovie!

  19. If you say it’s a boy, it’s a boy.

    Mama knows.
    (Or not.)

    What we all know for sure:
    It’s a baby. It is healthy. It will be beautiful.

    It will be loved.
    Oh yes, will it ever.

  20. I don’t know what it’s going to be but I can guarentee you that it will come out naked.