August 9th is one of the most bittersweet days on our calendar.

One hundred and two years ago, Cort’s great grandfather, Edward, was born on this day.

Fifty-five years ago, Cort’s dad, Steven, was born on this day.

These great men had a special bond.  Steve shared something with his Grandpa that none of his other seven siblings did.  They worked the farm together, and  had the most special grandfather/grandson connection.

Both of these men are now celebrating their birthdays in heaven.

Each year, Grandma Sluiter and whoever is around get together and have lunch to celebrate her father’s and her son’s birthday.

We laugh and we smile at the lives of these great men.

And two years ago on this day, we dressed Eddie in his Papa Steve’s baptismal outfit and had him baptized on his namesakes’ birthday.


Edward Steven Sluiter's Baptism Day

Grandma Sluiter also gave us a copy of her father (Edward Koops)’s baptism certificate.

We are so very lucky to have Eddie.  He is a constant reminder to us of his Papa Steve both in looks and personality.  He is a blessing to our family in ways I don’t know if he will ever understand.

But it’s for those very reasons that this day is so sad.

As special as it has become, sometimes I wish this was just another day.  Just another parent with a birthday that we go to see.  Another card and gift to run out and get like we do for my parents and Cort’s remaining parents.

I see now the blessings Steve gives us from heaven, but I would much rather him be here with us.  Maybe I am selfish.

Happy birthday, Pops.  I can’t begin to tell you how much we miss you.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. So lovely… I hope you were feeling ok during lunch.

  2. This is so touching! Grandparents and Great-Grandparents hold such a very special place on this earth don’t they? And even though they might not physically be here anymore their place remains. Unfilled, unforgotten, and forever constant!

  3. I love that you wrote about this…it’s an amazing story!

  4. great story, great picture

  5. Lily’s grandfather died before she was ever born…his name? Edward 🙂 Your son has a great name… 🙂 Lovely post.. I feel the very same way about my Father in law…I know he is our angel, looking down and cheering us on. 🙂

  6. Been there, done that. Lost my dad almost 27 years ago to brain cancer. I look at my girls and my sister and brother’s kids and see what he has missed. One of my brother’s boys carries on his name and while it is a worthy honor it is still sometime hard to see this now 18 year old kid and know that he has never known the man (his grandpa) he was named after.
    Cancer Sucks indeed.

  7. Thinking about you guys & your whole family. Eddie has been well-named, but I know you wish they could be around to share him and not just look over him like guardian angels.

  8. Charlotte Anne says

    Beautiful post and I “get” that connection. I was born on my Nannie (my fathers mothers) 64th birthday (12/14/85). We have a very special relationship and I treasure it. Then this past year my adopted sister got pregnant and was due on January 7th 2011. I swore up and down my niece would be born on December 14th 2010 but my sister said no way. However, I got a phone call the night of December 13th from my sister saying her water broke. My niece was born on my 25th, and our Nannie’s 89th birthday! Now I get to share that connection with two of the most important ladies in my life. I will be heartbroken when my Nannie passes but I feel better knowing my niece is here to carry on that bond!