when it just feels right

I know it’s not Wednesday yet, but I couldn’t resist bringing my new friend, Jason (aka ihubby on twitter) into the Nation today.  Cort introduced me to Jason telling me I should follow his tweets because “if we knew him in real life, we would so hang out with this guy, Kate.”

He was right.  Jason is AWESOME (and his wife is quite hilarious too).  They would definitely be a friend couple we would hang with.

After following Jason’s tweets, I started reading his blog and found out that he is a cancer survivor.  He had testicular cancer, but had it removed and is here to tell about it today.

However, he and his wife want children, and this is why I asked him here today.  Because I enthusiastically agreed to put a little badge over there on the right for him.

Please give him some Sluiter Nation love as he explains….


Anytime I blog about the subject of adoption I get very flustered. I can sit down in front of my computer and talk about something completely off the wall (movies, music etc..) and not have any problem. When I speak about the subject of adoption it brings up the past and what my wife and I have been through this far and it hits me hard.

I have been reaching out to fellow bloggers and twitter friends and seeing if they have room on their sites to post a badge. When I asked Katie to post the badge, she asked me to guest post on her site about it. What’s so great about the badge? Well, I like to think it’s for a good cause. Long story short, I had cancer and now I can’t have biological children. You can read about my journey cancer here and here. My wife also wrote an amazing post on it here.

Clicking the badge directs you to our ChipIn page. Our friend Amy created the page to help fundraise for our adoption. Amy told me that our story touched her so much that she wanted to do everything possible to help us get a child. When Amy sent me the link for the first time I cried. Not because I was sad but because I was so touched that someone would go out of their way for us. We have never met this person in real life (though we will be soon) and she cares for us enough to do this. I was just beside myself.

When my wife and I found out I was infertile, we knew fairly immediately that adoption would be our next step. We didn’t want to waste time and money on IVF, cause we weren’t sure if it would work and also we didn’t want to use donor sperm. We talked about it and came to the conclusion that we wanted to open our family and arms to a child that needed a family and a home. You know when something just feels right? Well, that’s how we feel about adoption. We had also considered the idea of adoption before we found out I was infertile. We had talked about it at great lengths and had always talked about how we wanted to adopt a child even after we had our own kids. I guess it is something that has been in our heads most of the time and now we are trying to make that dream come true.

So why am I posting about all of this on Sluiter Nation? The main reason is adoption is pretty darn expensive! My cancer and all the chemo, tests and scans involved with it just wiped out all of our savings we had. The adoption has us starting at square one, and while there are grants and other forms of help for the adoption process, we aren’t eligible for them because we don’t have an approved home study. To get the home study, we have to raise about $4,000 more.

That is where you come in. Please donate to our adoption fund if you can. Regardless of how much you give, we are grateful for what you are donating. You are helping us to get one step closer to bringing a child into our house. You are helping us come one step closer to having a child of our own.

I want to thank Katie for letting me guest blog and to tell my story. I also want to thank her for posting the badge to our ChipIn page.

If you want to post the badge on your site or if you have ANY questions concerning our process of adoption or the ChipIn page, please feel free to email me at theihubby@gmail.com or my wife at dashleysteele@gmail.com.


Adoption is very close to our heart as well.  Some of you even follow Cort’s sister, MacKenzie and her husband Dave’s adoption journey.

And you know that cancer research and support is important to us as well.  Cancer is such a thief…even for those who survive.

So if you can give, please do.  Their children are waiting for them.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. Katie,

    You are doing a great thing here. I don’t know you, but I wish I did. You’re alright.


    Cancer sucks, but it seems that it has led you and your wife to a collection of awesome people, and will eventually lead to the adopted child who you seem to have always known you would love as your own. In this case, the bright side is pretty damn bright.

  2. You know how I feel! I’m so excited for y’all and KNOW you’re going to make amazing parents. Hopefully sooner than later!

    Thanks, Kate, for inviting Jason to your space!

  3. Katie and Cort,

    I wanna personally thank you for letting me post. You don’t know how warm it makes my heart to share my wife and I’s story. We can’t wait for the day we bring that child home and we won’t forget those that were involved the whole way. That child will know the story and know everyone who was involved. Thank you so much!

  4. Unfortunately, having completed the adoption journey (my son is 20 months old), things are a little tight at the moment, but I’ll chip-in when I can.

    What I can say, however, is “hang in there.” Adoption was the most frustrating, the most challenging, the most expensive, the most infuriating path that I ever went down. And, um, now that it’s “done,” I can say that it was, easily, the most rewarding experience in the world).

    • We are “hanging in there”. We are ready to go through EVERYTHING to get to that moment when we bring our child home.

  5. It just blows my mind that people are willing to give wonderful kids awesome loving homes yet it costs incredibly too much. There is something wrong with that.

    • It’s blows my mind too. But, we are gonna plow through and one day…we will have the sounds of children in our home!

  6. Good luck Jason. You know how big of fan of yours I am. I hope you and the mrs. find the same joy my 3 girls have given my wife and I.

    • Thanks bro! OH I know how big a fan you are and you know how I am huge fan of yours! However, if I ever have 3 girls I think I will go insane! but i would cherish every minute of it.

  7. What a gorgeous post, as a fellow infertile who had twins through IVF, I know the pain you are going through. I promise to donate what I can now and then a little more when I can again, to help “your child” find their way to you. I’d also be willing to post your badge on my site if you’d like me to.

    My heart hurts for any couple that wants a child, all my prayers and good thoughts to you.