This week’s Top Ten clearly had to be about the lovely new year we have just entered, but I do not do resolutions.
In fact, I agree with my friend, Lynn, who said that resolutions imply that something was wrong with me that needs fixing. I am sick of feeling like I have to fix myself.
So instead of talking like I am all cracked and needing of repair, I am going to focus on Ten Things I want to do this year. Not change about myself, but actual THINGS.
#10: Try knitting-
I’ve mentioned this on twitter and elsewhere, but I think this would be a really fun thing to try. The funny thing is, Cortney agrees. I like to be able to talk and be present with my family or to watch some TV with Cort. But I need to be DOING something. Lately it’s jump on the computer or read a book. But if I learn to knit, I can stay with what is going on in the room rather than be in my own world.
#9: Go away for a weekend with Cortney-
We did this last year for our anniversary. We spent a night away in Detroit to see a Tigers game. We can do that again and I would be happy. Or we could go somewhere else. Whatever we have money for, but I have come to realize that spending alone time that is AWAY is important for us. We are together in this house a LOT due to our current situation. We need that NOT at home time for US to be good.
#8: Go away as a family-
Again, last year we successfully did this by traveling to Indy. We were nervous about the drive and the stay with Eddie…but everything went GREAT. I would do it again in a heartbeat…hopefully for the State Fair this time.
# 7: finish a crafty project-
I have one started that is for someone. That is all i can say. I would love to finish it. So I am going to.
#6: Get to Chicago…twice-
I WILL do this. Once to have a girls day with Tonya (my BFF) and once as a family for some touristy stuff. We love that city and there really is no reason for this to NOT to happen.
#5: Drop extra-curricular duties at school-
I’ve already started this process. They take up too much of my time and since I live so far away from school and now have a little family, it’s not fair to them. I’ve done an extra-curricular for seven years. It’s someone else’s turn.
#4: Finish Eddie’s big boy room –
I will do everything in my power to ensure that before this year is done? My child has a big boy bedroom to move to when/if he should need to do so. Until then, it will be a lovely playroom.
#3: Finish the downstairs bathroom-
Again, we are having a troupe of 12 adults and an uncountable number of children to our house this summer. One bathroom is not acceptable. This WILL get done. 2011 is the year of the bathroom!
#2: Clean my car-
As I type this I cannot tell you the last time I cleaned out the inside of my car OR washed the outside. I realize the outside is as easy as going through a carwash. I have not done this. Salt and grime has been eating my car for over a year. I know subconsciously it’s because I want a newer, bigger vehicle. But this car has been so good to me…I need to show her some love too.
#1: Touch my husband more-
Get your mind out of the gutter, you pervs! This is serious. We lost Cort’s grandpa on Christmas day and at his funeral, Cort’s grandma got up and told an entire room full of people that she can never once remember in 53 years of being married to the love of her life…cannot remember ONE time when grandpa turned her away when she needed a hug or a kiss or just a shoulder. But at the same time, she can remember thousands of times she shoo-ed him away because she was busy, or had a toddler on her hip, or whatever. She also recalled saying this fact in front of gramps once and he wasn’t even aware he was like this.
Cort has inherited this immediate love–this always there-ness–from his grandpa. I want to not turn his love away. So I guess that is sort of a resolution…something to “work on”.