For the Love…Of Blogging Q&A Thursday

We are wrapping up the…uh…”informational” portion of For the Love…Of Blogging today with a Q&A post.  Both Miranda and I are interviewing our husbands about living with wives who are addicted to into the social media world.

My husband, Cortney, has been what I think of as a “tech geek” for as long as I’ve known him. He builds computers (as a hobby.  ok he did it once), and he runs our “network”, AND he has been in and out of the online nerd tech forums longer than I knew they existed.

He got me involved in MySpace (yes, I just admitted that.  No, I don’t still have an account) and eventually persuaded me to join facebook.

So in reality?  I blame Cort for my obsession with social media.

And with that said, I interviewed him about my obsession with social media.

Me: So you’re married to a social media addict.  What’s that like?

Cortney: Well, it has its pros and cons.  Being able to meet and build new relationships with online friends is pretty cool.  I never would have thought that we (you) could know so many people all over the country / world.  I’m pretty sure if we went on a trip and needed a place to crash, there would be someone within reasonable distance that would put us up for the night.  That is pretty cool considering we haven’t met most of those people in person.

A downside is home life sometimes takes a back seat to the tweeps and blog rolls… but since they can be your support structure when I can’t, it can be an even trade at times.

Me: mm.  yes.  my attachment to my laptop.  So you’ve noticed that, huh? Ok, but you are involved in social media as well.  I am sure your interests are different than mine since you don’t seem that excited when I tell what other people are tweeting in regard to Red Carpet fashion.  What do you primarily use social media for?

Cort: I enjoy the use of social media to meet some interesting people all over the world as well… many through your connections… but mostly I use it to ask for advice on technical projects / personal product reviews.

I also enjoy the ability to spout off my opinion or random thoughts on whatever floats in to my brain… with the hope of a smart ass reply that hopefully leads to some interesting banter between friends.  On twitter especially, it makes me smile when someone lets me know that my dumb comment made them giggle or put a smile on their face.

Me: Yes, you are a witty fella.  You have a blog, yes?  Tell my lovely readers about it.

Cort: I DO!  My blog is called TastyButteredToast and it’s my own little corner of the internets.  I can honestly say that there really isn’t a theme or specific purpose to my blog other than for the occasional vent, opinion, or thought that happens to move me to write and publish it for the blogosphere.  I’ve posted about the loss of my father, the birth of my son, a rainbow, the difficulties on landing a job, and my adoring wife.  So the subject matter really runs the full gamut.  I’ve even asked twitter what they wanted to know about me… I have yet to find something that I’d rather not post…but I’m sure it’s out there.

So if there’s something you’d like to know my opinion on or something about me, just ask.  I love a good blog prompt…

Me: Nice. Wait.  Why did you name it “Tasty Buttered Toast” of all things?

Cort: Well, when thinking about a name for my blog, I wanted something that everyone could relate to. something that…when you thought about it,  (he is nodding like I should know what he’s talking about here) you’re like….”mmmm…tasty buttered toast.  I like buttered toast.”  And if naturally you like buttered toast, then subconsciously you will like my blog as well.

I’ve actually gained followers because my blog had the word “buttered” in it.

Me: ok.  that is sort of weird.  but whatever.  So anyway, why did you start your blog?

Cort: I had originally thought  the blog would give me something to do while Short Stack (Eddie) was sleeping or between job hunting sessions… and to stroke my massive ego.  Just knowing that millions of readers out there had been patiently waiting to see what my next thought or opinion was finally had a vehicle to get the word out.

It wasn’t until a few days into having a blog that I realized that I actually had very little to say… that was a bit of a bummer considering I’d like to think of myself as a fairly interesting person.  I mean really, if I find myself interesting, why shouldn’t everyone else, right?

It also occurred to me that Sluiter Nation was only telling one side of the story, I wanted an outlet to be able to put my side of the story out there when needed.  To show my massive following that it doesn’t always happen the way you describe and I have a point of view as well.  Little did I know you would get it right more often than not.

Me: You have lots to say, I hope you know that.  And if you would sit and blog it out?  It would be wonderful.  Speaking of wonderful, do you read any of the blogs that your lovely wife authors?

Cort: I read all of my lovely wife’s blogs.  I like to see all the wonderful things she has to say about me… massive ego, remember?

I find her to be a fantastic writer and knowing the sound of her voice, when I read the words I can “hear” them as though she was saying it… and I also think that sometimes she uses the blog to talk about topics that she wouldn’t or would have difficulty talking about in person.  I know she has found a huge support circle out there to get advice and positive vibes when things are low, and to celebrate when good things happen.

Me: Awe.  You are sweet.  Do you think it’s good or bad that we are so into each others social media lives?  that we know pretty much all of each others biz-nas?

Cort: Yes, I do.

Sometimes I think it would be good to have an anonymous slice of the internet pie to voice whatever I wanted without worry or concern about who was offended or what was said… not that I have a lot to say that would be that controversial, but everyone has those days where they want to swear at the world regardless of who is listening.

On the flip side, I think that by being able to put your name to feelings and topics can open up additional dialogue offline that maybe wouldn’t take place otherwise.  The blog can be a great ice breaker for difficult topics, it can give one the ability to get their entire thought out without being interrupted.    A therapy of sorts, with all the readers being unlicensed therapists, giving their support and advice.

Me: I agree with that 100%.  So, do you have anything else you want to dazzle our readers with?

Cort: Did you ever notice that the word therapist is “The Rapist” without the space?  Interesting coincidence don’t you think?  The raping of your brain / emotions / thoughts?  Hmmm… I just blew your mind.

I would like to say that I am genuinely happy for the success that Sluiter Nation has experienced over the last couple years.  Followers, friends, occasional commenters… all these people add a little sanity to our more than insane lives.  It’s good to know we’re not the only ones out there having to deal with strife, loss, joys, and sorrow.

Viva Sluiter Nation!

Viva Sluiter Nation, indeed, Cort.

I must plug my husband’s blog here.  He doesn’t post all that regularly, but what he says is wonderful.  I love this post about what makes a lullaby.  Or this post where he tells about why cancer sucks. Or this beautiful post he wrote after his grandpa passed this past Christmas.

And with that said, you all may use the comment section here for comments or more questions on anything we talked about this week.  No linky today…just discuss.  Although if there IS something you would like me to look at, feel free to let me know that in the comments!

I had so much fun here, you guys.  Even with my crazy busy schedule, this was good.  No, it was more than good.  It was amazing!  Thank you SO much for participating.

To thank you?  Tomorrow Miranda and I will have giveaways ALL. DANG. DAY!

Starting at 9am est  until 5pm est, there will be one giveaway per hour here. and Miranda?  Also has a bunch!  just to say THANK YOU to you all!

Because this wouldn’t have been possible without YOU.

About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. It’s like hanging out at your house! And as for the housework- in my experience it suffers no matter what. Twitter, a new book… I can find lots that more exciting.
    Though I do miss the cleaning races Cort and I used to have.

    • Ha! It sort of is like being at home with us. Some nights, when Cort and I are both on twitter, it’s like being in our living room with us too 🙂

  2. I am going to ask you both (you & Miranda) the same question! And this is because I’d like to get as many different answer to this.
    How do you manage to work, spend time with your kids & family, and grow your blog? I find that I struggle with this a lot.

    • I have a pretty strict schedule that I stick to. On breaks at work, I sometimes get chances to do SOME blogging, but I pretty much adhere to this schedule:
      day = work
      after school gets out, I check social media
      when I get home it’s family time until E goes to bed…although if Cort is home, I break this rule and check in on stuff…or draft a blog.
      after E goes to bed I can do what I want until I go to bed.

      Honestly I have not really focused on “growing” my blog so much as just writing. All the readers I get are a happy chance. 🙂

  3. Ok this sounds vain to ask you to read my post. Like I got all dressed up and hope you’ll notice me. Ha! But since you suggested the “Exploded Moment,” and since I had so much fun writing it, I would love if you would read it too! Time allowing, of course… Thanks, Katie!

  4. I have been blogging for a year now and I think I am in a rut. I haven’t gained many followers in a while and receive very few comments. I visit other blogs and leave comments and I have joined communities. Where should I go from here to continue growing? Am I missing something? Or am I just not that interesting haha.

    • It is NOT lack of interesting…I don’t know. I get in a rut sometimes too. There are some posts that get maybe 5 comments. other days? the comments explode. I really find that the posts that get the most reaction are the ones that aren’t updates or full of me telling. there the confessions. the raw, open stuff. other than that, I don’t know. I do a LOT of chit chatting with people on twitter…and I have a facebook fan page. both of those draw the most readers (or so my google analytics say).

  5. I love this post! I think it’d be interesting to see what my husband’s answers would be. Oh & I think our husbands sound a lot alike with their fun guy yet computer nerdness. 🙂

  6. Hi there! Well, I echoed Jackie’s question to Miranda and I see you’ve already answered above so I won’t make you repeat yourself. It seems like from your answer you have had really good luck with the “if you build it, they will come” approach.

    Are there any communities that you have joined (blogfrog, google connect, etc.)? Conferences? Really anything besides using twitter & reading other blogs that have helped?

    I do like the schedule you suggested. Something I need to start following for sure!

    • When I first got into blogging, I did join a few communities. I tried BlogFrog, but couldn’t keep up! I found Bloggy Moms and Theta Mom to be great places to meet other bloggers and share content. When I went back to work this fall, I didn’t have time to keep up with all the communities and really just focused on my content and interacting with people via twitter.

  7. I love that y’all both blog! I’ve wanting my husband to get more into Twitter or start blogging. Mainly because I’d love having someone IRL that gets why I’m drawn to them.

    How do I trick…I mean talk him into doing that?
    Real question though-Do IRL friends and family support what your doing? Mostly mine want to know why and think it’s a waste of time because Im not making any money at it.

    • Cort actually decided to blog after he took his English classes (he is back in college) and he realized he had mad writing skills. Ok, I told him he did. But once he got A’s on those papers? he realized he was pretty awesome 🙂

      My blog started out as for my IRL friends/family. most still read. some don’t. I have gotten only positive response. If anyone finds it to be dumb, they haven’t told me. The thing they find weird is me being friends with people I don’t “know”. 🙂

  8. This was a fantastic week! Thank you for inviting us into your house and inspiring us!

  9. Just coming by to say, erm, thank you for coming by and commenting! I didn’t do so well all week, as predicted, but I’ve enjoyed reading your posts. The whole point of blogging is to get to “know” new people 🙂 And eclectic. Hmm. That’s a compliment, right?

    • YES! eclectic is AWESOME! compared to me? You have lead a very exciting life! Love to read your posts!


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