We Can Be Quiet

Nightswimming deserves a quiet night…

The day of our wedding was great.  It was very…us.  We are quiet a squirrelly, rambunctious couple.  We like to bring the fun.  We laughed through our whole ceremony.  People still talk about all the laughing and chatting and smiles that went on.  In fact, we wrote our own vows.  Mine were all serious and lovey.  Isn’t that how vows are supposed to be?  Apparently not.

Cort’s rhymed.  That is A.  B is that they were also funny.  Those who could hear (they forgot to mic him) we rolling.  In fact, our wedding was anything but quiet.

The photograph on the dashboard, taken years ago
Turned around backward so the windshield shows
Every streetlight reveals the picture in reverse

We were (are!) best friends. The group of friends and the events of our life that got us to the alter are nothing less than a rambunctious muddle of awesome.

We have so much history.  We have so much love.  We have so much us.  It was very fitting that we were not quiet and solemn up on that alter.

Nightswimming deserves a quiet night…

But we can slow it down.  We can be quiet and loving.  Our minister slowed us down and (unexpectedly) had us recite the traditional vows as well.

I’m not sure all these people understand,
It’s not like years ago…

We were glad we did.  But even gladder that we had said our own to each other.  And since we weren’t sticking to ordinary anyway?  We picked a first song that no one knew (well, a few did, but that is because they rock our socks).

These things they go away,
Replaced by every day.

I had to specially give our DJ our song by R.E.M for our first dance.  It was magical.  It was slow.  It was love.  And it was us.

Nightswiming, remembering that night,

This dance? Was when I really felt like I had said, “I do”.

And what if there were two
Side by side in orbit
Around the fairest sun?

But because we are not quiet 99% of the time?  We also had another very special song.  Just for us to be introduced to as Mr. and Mrs. Sluiter for the first time.  And it was?  RAMBUNCTIOUS!   The song?  Big Pimpin’ by Jay-Z. Yeah, people still talk about it.

And that song?  Helped with the atmosphere for the rest of the night!  I mean, I bet YOU didn’t have someone announce his intent to run for the presidency in the next election? (he did not run, by the way.  Don’t worry, I did not have McCain or Obama at my wedding.  Apparently is was just his political unrest and the beer talking.  Mostly the beer.)

But for that four minutes and fourteen seconds?  It was just us.  Quiet.

The photograph reflects,
Every streetlight a reminder,
Nightswimming deserves a quiet night, deserves a quiet night. 

Song lyrics from Nightswimming by R.E.M.

Mama's Losin' It

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About Katie

Just a small town girl...wait no. That is a Journey song. Katie Sluiter is a small town girl, but she is far from living in a lonely world. She is a middle school English teacher, writer, mother, and wife. Life has thrown her a fair share of challenges, but her belief is that writing through them makes her stronger.


  1. Lori @ In Pursuit of Martha Points says


    And here's your WordUp, Yo! post.

    Extra brilliant!

    Very good use of the WOW.

  2. Pumpkin and Piglet says

    I love that song! I think it's great you had both your own and the traditional vows, a slow and a fast song. There's so many different sides to us and our relationships so why not celebrate them.

  3. makemommygosomethingsomething says

    LOVE THIS…Can't go wrong wit a lil Jay Z yo…LOL

  4. Awww that's a fantastic song! Love it!
    That picture is beautiful 😀

  5. Aw, what a great post!!! I loved this! And great songs, too. We did a funky one for our "introduction' at our reception, too: you're my first, last, everything by Barry White.

    People liked that!

  6. Aw, what a great post!!! I loved this! And great songs, too. We did a funky one for our "introduction' at our reception, too: you're my first, last, everything by Barry White.

    People liked that!

  7. You look gorgeous. And if Obama or McCain had been inspired to run by your wedding, I would have fallen off of my chair laughing. As it was, I still wish I'd been there.

  8. I think it's SO great that you guys walked in to that! Weddings really should be about the man & wife.

  9. that was beautiful…even the Big Pimpin'. Gotta love Jay-Z. 🙂

  10. What a lovely post!

    I love that your wedding and your memories are so unique and special and YOU. So many people get carried away by the day and forget what it's all about.

    Glad you stopped and held a moment in your hands.

    So lovely.

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  12. That's a great song! And a great WOW post…I especially love that your fun song was Rambunctious.

  13. I totally love R.E.M. I went to college in the town where they formed and I was always on the lookout for Michael Stipe whenever I'd go downtown for lunch.

    And Big Pimpin' used to be my ringtone. True story.

  14. missy widener says

    I LOVE nightswimming. and I love your writing even more.